Recently, I was listening to a very funny routine that comedienne Wanda Sykes recorded for HBO about her decision to come out. At its core, her presentation is about what I call “self-disclosure.” She talks about how it is more difficult to be identified as gay than it is to be identified as black (if you haven’t seen her, yes, she is Afro-American). She humorously walks us through what it would have been like if she’d had to come out as “black” to her incredulous and shocked parents. Her point is well taken. Some identities that we carry are self-evident … Continue reading Choosing the Moment of Self-Disclosure